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Why I Switched Back to a Paper Planner: My Experience

Image shows an open planner with sections blocked out for specific needs such as Homeschool, Lunch, Dinner, To Do

I am totally a planner girlie. I love calendars, love planners, love the cute pens and highlighters and stickers to go with them and keep myself organized. I have been this way since my school-days. I would always have a planner to write down everything for all of classes, due dates, tests, reminders, etc. When I finished school and started in the corporate world I traded in my planner for the calendar app on my phone and outlook on the computer. I didn’t have as many things to keep track of aside from meetings or scheduled calls. For many years this is all I needed, and it worked for me during that season of my life.

But now I work full time, am a mother, a homeschool teacher, and homemaker, all wrapped up and rolled into one. There was a time where I was also back in school as well, and my husband picked up most of my slack so that I could finish and get my bachelors degree. Now we have traded places and I am happy to be able to do the same for him, that he did for me. Now he works full time and goes to school, along with his many other responsibilities. So our responsibilities have shifted and suffice it to say the current season of our life, is busy. Very busy in fact, and the little phone calendar app just wasn’t cutting it for me anymore. Yes I still use it, especially for keeping track of appointments, schedules, important dates, etc. But for day to day organizing it just wasn’t working.

Sure there are hundreds of planner/organizing apps to help people get organized. I have even tried several of them, but they just weren’t doing it for me. I’d stick to them for a bit and then things would fall to the wayside. But you know what did do it for me? A good old fashioned paper and pen planner. I started using them again last year and immediately remembered how much I loved using planners to help me stay organized and on top of things.

Image shows a closed 2026 planner by ChristianPlanner with pens resting on top.

Not all planners are created equally though. What some people find useful others do not. I tried several different planners, printable ones as well physical copies. I even tried designing my own, but that just made me feel even busier with everything I already have to do. Some planners were specific to the task, such as homeschool specific planners, while others more broad. But ultimately my favorite planner ended up being the one my sister gifted me from ChristianPlanner. I loved that planner so much that she gifted me another one this year as well. With this weekly planner I am able to block out the days as needed. I have my homeschool sections where I can note down the lessons for the day, to do list, meal planning, appointments, and so on, and so forth. I can make it cute with my different colored pens and highlighters (because that’s the kind of girl I am) but ultimately the purpose is the same. To organize and keep track of what needs to get done.

I think the significance of having a physical planner that has helped me the most, is the simple act of writing things down. Me personally, I am a tactile learner. I need to touch and feel in order to learn, I could type all I want on a phone or tablet but it doesn’t help me to simply touch a smooth screen. It is the act of physically writing things down on paper, that helps me actually remember them. I remember when I was in college, I didn’t study in the traditional sense of quizzing myself or using flash cards. My professors would often talk so fast that my notes would be messy and sloppy as I tried to keep up with them. So then I would go home and re-write them again, so that I could make them look nicer, more organized, and of course color-coded. I even had different colored notebook paper for each class. But it was that simple act of rewriting my notes that would help me remember what needed to be remembered.

Bringing that same concept back to planner I see now why all of those organizing apps and todo lists on my phones wouldn’t work. I wouldn’t remember what I needed to do unless I checked my phone a hundred times to remind myself. But by writing it down in the planner, yes I do still check it occasionally to make sure I didn’t miss anything, but simply writing them down already helps keep it in my mind, I can close my eyes and picture the todo section of my planner and what I wrote there. I mean this concept isn’t a foreign one. It goes back even to Biblical times if you truly stop to think about it. God told Moses to write down the commandments, he told kings to write down copies of that law so that they would remember. He told prophets to write down their prophecies so they could be remembered and preserved. Throughout time and history the act of writing things down has been used to remember and pass things down.

So, my advice today. If you find yourself struggling to keep track of your to-do lists, or figuring out what needs to happen throughout your days. Ditch the phone apps and try getting an actual planner to keep track. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or expensive. I’ve even seen small pocket planners at the dollar store. Give it a try, and I hope that it helps you, as much as it has helped me.

Life

Finding Peace Amidst Parenting Chaos

When I was younger I never understood it when my mom would ask for “just a few minutes of quiet” it never made sense to me. I hated it when it was too quiet. I mean I grew up with 4 siblings, one who liked to sing opera, and due to our age differences I had nieces and nephews by the time I was 8 years old. All this to say, I wasn’t used to quiet. I was used to music, talking, and background noise which is how I learned to work. Even with school I needed music or some kind of noise in the background whenever I did homework or tests.

But now that I am older, and a Mom myself, I think I understand what my mom meant when she asked for quiet. I am still the same in a sense. When I am working I still need something in the background. Sometimes its music, sometimes its a tv show that I have seen already, just something. But now my usual background sound is also accompanied by something else. It’s followed by a barrage of “Mommy’s” every few minutes, accompanied by yet another question I may or may not know how to answer. Seriously, the questions they come up with. If it’s not the constant calling of “Mommy” then its the bickering. The ‘she took this’ or ‘she did that’ if you’ve seen Lilo and Stitch and can picture that “She’s touching me!” scene, that is what life is like with a 6 and 7 year old. To top it all off they also like to have background noise just like me. So they put on their tv shows or their music, both of which are definitely NOT conducive to concentration. I mean I’m a fan of Jack Black but if I have to listen to one more Peaches or Lava Chicken… So anyways, all of this coupled together every day from morning to night, is overwhelming, overstimulating, and makes me long for silence.

I saw a video not long ago, I wish I remember who made it to give them credit, but essentially it was a mom who told her kids to call her by her actual name for 1 hour. To give her a ‘mom break’ I thought that was silly but also pretty smart. But then when I thought about doing that with my girls I just knew that they would get such a kick out of it that they would be calling my Deby about a thousand times within that hour, so I decided not to test that method out. What I did start doing after much thought and prayer, was Instacart deliveries. I know that is probably not what you thought I would say. But my reasoning was this. I work full time from home while teaching the girls. We get out of the house for swimming lessons, parks, and the occasional field trip. But even then, I am always on high alert to always keep an eye on them, so I can’t say it’s entirely peaceful. I decided to do something that would get me out of the house occasionally on my own. I enjoy shopping for groceries but there’s only so many we need for ourselves so I thought why not go grocery shopping, without having to spend my own money? Even better, why not make some extra cash while doing it? So yeah, that’s how I decided to do Instacart deliveries. In the end, you know what ended up being my favorite part? The drive. There’s something almost meditative about being in the car by yourself in silence. No music, no one needing you or asking a question, just the sound of the air conditioning blasting and the dull hum of the engine. I could use that time to think about whatever I wanted, or nothing at all. Or even just use the time to pray. It was during that moment, that I finally understood what my mom meant all those times when she just asked for some quiet.

Life

Conquer Household Chaos with Micro Lists

I was thinking today about everything that I needed to do, and was debating making a list of it all. After all there’s a lot to get done. We’re behind on laundry and no matter how much we clean, little 5 and 7 year old feet track in more and more mess immediately after; seriously I have leaves on my kitchen floor that I have no idea where they came from. Life is hectic and chaotic. But every time I have made a to-do list in the past, it never seemed to work. In fact I would find myself more stressed and overwhelmed. Even if I would check off one of the items at the top of the list the sheer amount remaining on the list would be daunting and have me feel like I would never get it all done anyways, so why bother? I don’t know, maybe it’s just my brain that works that way. If I were to write down everything that needs to get done right now, I would fill up a page or two, front and back. I don’t know about you, but that’s the reality at our house. We both work full time and we both have our own lists of things that need to get done. Throw in kids, pets, and homeschooling and it just keeps piling on.

Today an idea popped in my head to make a micro list. Companies, when working on big projects, will actually break it down into smaller, attainable(key word here), goals. This way you have something smaller to focus on, once you finish the smaller goals you move on to the next one, next thing you know you are done and the project is finished. Why shouldn’t we use this same concept in our own lives? Being parents and maintaining your house is hard enough. Being parents and maintaining your house while you both work full time and one of you is in school while the other homeschools the kids? That feels impossible. So why shouldn’t we use the same ideas that big companies use regularly to accomplish their own goals? Instead of letting everything pile up until the weekend, your only 2 days off, why not break it up into smaller, micro goals? Imagine getting to a point where you reach the weekend and actually get to enjoy it instead of catching up on everything you’ve fallen behind on? I don’t know about you but I’m really looking forward to being able to do that one day.

If this sounds like your life then I challenge you to start your own micro lists with me today. I’m starting with 3 things on the list.

  • Finish all of the adults’ laundry (kids’ laundry will be a different day)
  • Wipe down all of the counter tops and put dishes away
  • Sweep kitchen/dining floor

Three items that I believe I can attain after work, before the end of the day. I don’t know about you but looking at a small list like this actually makes me feel hopeful, like I can get this done. I know there’s more that needs to be done in the background, decluttering, organizing, you name it. But for today, lets focus on our micro list and see how we feel about it afterwards.