Life

Embrace the Present: Celebrate the Victories

I’ve come to the realization that lately, a large portion of my time has been spent thinking about the future.

  • I’ll do this when I get a new job…
  • I’ll finally be able to do this once I have more…
  • I can’t wait until we move and I can…

To give some examples of future dreams that are always on my mind. But I also find myself getting lost in the to-do lists of the future. Whether its getting stuck thinking about how busy I am going to be when homeschooling starts again in August, everything we have to prepare for our vacation next month, planning the budget for this month. These are all tasks and goals that will eventually need to be done but why am I letting them stress me out now? Why am I getting overwhelmed now, for something that I’m not going to have to deal with until months from now and in all likeliness will not even be as bad as I am making it out to be in my head.

When you are a new mom they tell you to enjoy the moment while it lasts because you will blink and they will be grown and getting ready to move out. That statement is very much true. When you’re younger it is like time moves at a snail’s pace everything takes “foreeeeeever” as my daughters would say. But when you’re grown, without even realizing it, time seems to hit the fast forward button. One minute you are celebrating New Years with your family and the next you realize half the year is already gone.

So then back to my main statement, why am I wasting the precious time I have with my mind on the future? Don’t get me wrong, thinking about the future is good. Having dreams is wonderful (I have so many of them). But I need to stop getting so lost in ‘the future’ that I am not present in the, well, the present. I seem to get lost in the fog of it and it is overwhelming to think about all of the things I want to do with my life and many times I find that I forget about the accomplishments that I have made until that point and treat them as if they didn’t really matter.

I want to change that part of my mindset, starting now. So I have been thinking about different ways I may be able to do that.

  1. Health/Weightloss: Instead of thinking about how much time and work it is going to take to get to my goals, focus on what I can do today. Did I make good choices, today. Did I try to do some kind of exercise, today. And so on.
  2. Homeschooling: We are on summer break, don’t stress about the homeschool schedule that is going to be to months from now. Focus on today, what can I informally teach my children today? Maybe they have a question or need help learning how to do something or use something.
  3. Household Chores: My nemesis. Let’s face it, these never end. I already implement my strategy of Micro To-Do lists, but I need to make sure I stop adding something to that list if I already know there is no way I am going to be able to finish it. If I want to do something big, like re-organize the pantry, I know I will not be able to finish that within the span of today, not with work and everything else I have going on. So my plan going forward with these ‘big’ chores, is to pick 1 thing that I know I can accomplish that day that will get me one step closer to my goal. Falling back on the example of the re-organizing the panty. I know I wont be able to finish the full re-organization today. But if my pantry has 6 shelves then I can start from top to bottom and re-organize 1 shelf at a time.

These are just 3 main categories from my life. But my method moving forward is to focus on what I can accomplish now. What can I get done today, with the time that I have. I don’t want to give myself impossible tasks that I know I won’t be able to do because I am just setting myself up for failure. If I know I am going to be gone from 8am-8pm then why would I add clean the living room to my to-do list (yes, I have done this)? I’m just going to feel defeated when I see the list and nothing is crossed off. But you know what happens when I assign myself tasks that I am able to accomplish and I get to cross those items from the list? I feel a sense of accomplishment and renewed energy. The same can be applied to my health/weightloss journey. If all I do is focus on the number of pounds I want to lose I will be too focused on the future. Instead I want to focus on what I can do today. I am going to eat well-rounded meals and take breaks from my desk so I can do a few minutes of exercise.

My goal moving forward is to set myself up for success, not failure, and to celebrate the victories no matter how small they may seem to others.

Homeschool · Life

Reflections on Our Homeschooling Journey This Year

Without further adieu the 2025-2026 homeschooling year has come to an end. This year has been a rollercoaster of a ride when it comes to homeschooling. Homeschooling is already a fulfilling challenge but being a working mom who also homeschools comes with a whole new set of challenges. Biggest challenge we faced this year was schedule. I started the year waking the girls up at 7AM so that they could do their lessons before I started work for the day, but the lack of sleep made them grumpy throughout the day. I then tried to work their lessons in small batches during my breaks and lunch. That also didn’t work for us. I’ve learned that I was still operating on the premise of my public school background, I was used to school as something that happens in the mornings at specific times. I forgot that one of the reasons I even decided to do homeschooling was the flexibility of it. So after prayer and guidance I decided to move our homeschooling lessons to the afternoons when I was done with work for the day. Some days were harder than others but overall this is what ended up working best for us.

Up until now my youngest Emily (6yrs) has also been doing her lessons right alongside her sister Anastasia(8yrs). They have been at the same level and doing their lessons together but this year that changed as well. If she had been going to public school Emily would have only started Kindergarten this year while Anastasia just finished 2nd grade. So when I saw that Emily was still working on learning the fundamentals when it came to reading that was when I knew it was time to separate the lessons and give them both individual attention at their level, which to my surprise they both thrived with and actually preferred the individual lessons.

It has been a year of many changes and lessons for all of us but it has been a successful year. I love seeing how far they’ve come and how much they’ve progressed since we started last fall and I’ve learned what does and does not work for us. But all things come to an end and this year we ended the school year with a bang and went to the lake with their grandparents. It was a perfect way to end the school season and start the summer festivities. We have many activities planned for this summer but at the same time, it is the time for rest and relaxation for all of us.

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

Christian Momma · Homeschool · Life

Why I Switched Back to a Paper Planner: My Experience

Image shows an open planner with sections blocked out for specific needs such as Homeschool, Lunch, Dinner, To Do

I am totally a planner girlie. I love calendars, love planners, love the cute pens and highlighters and stickers to go with them and keep myself organized. I have been this way since my school-days. I would always have a planner to write down everything for all of classes, due dates, tests, reminders, etc. When I finished school and started in the corporate world I traded in my planner for the calendar app on my phone and outlook on the computer. I didn’t have as many things to keep track of aside from meetings or scheduled calls. For many years this is all I needed, and it worked for me during that season of my life.

But now I work full time, am a mother, a homeschool teacher, and homemaker, all wrapped up and rolled into one. There was a time where I was also back in school as well, and my husband picked up most of my slack so that I could finish and get my bachelors degree. Now we have traded places and I am happy to be able to do the same for him, that he did for me. Now he works full time and goes to school, along with his many other responsibilities. So our responsibilities have shifted and suffice it to say the current season of our life, is busy. Very busy in fact, and the little phone calendar app just wasn’t cutting it for me anymore. Yes I still use it, especially for keeping track of appointments, schedules, important dates, etc. But for day to day organizing it just wasn’t working.

Sure there are hundreds of planner/organizing apps to help people get organized. I have even tried several of them, but they just weren’t doing it for me. I’d stick to them for a bit and then things would fall to the wayside. But you know what did do it for me? A good old fashioned paper and pen planner. I started using them again last year and immediately remembered how much I loved using planners to help me stay organized and on top of things.

Image shows a closed 2026 planner by ChristianPlanner with pens resting on top.

Not all planners are created equally though. What some people find useful others do not. I tried several different planners, printable ones as well physical copies. I even tried designing my own, but that just made me feel even busier with everything I already have to do. Some planners were specific to the task, such as homeschool specific planners, while others more broad. But ultimately my favorite planner ended up being the one my sister gifted me from ChristianPlanner. I loved that planner so much that she gifted me another one this year as well. With this weekly planner I am able to block out the days as needed. I have my homeschool sections where I can note down the lessons for the day, to do list, meal planning, appointments, and so on, and so forth. I can make it cute with my different colored pens and highlighters (because that’s the kind of girl I am) but ultimately the purpose is the same. To organize and keep track of what needs to get done.

I think the significance of having a physical planner that has helped me the most, is the simple act of writing things down. Me personally, I am a tactile learner. I need to touch and feel in order to learn, I could type all I want on a phone or tablet but it doesn’t help me to simply touch a smooth screen. It is the act of physically writing things down on paper, that helps me actually remember them. I remember when I was in college, I didn’t study in the traditional sense of quizzing myself or using flash cards. My professors would often talk so fast that my notes would be messy and sloppy as I tried to keep up with them. So then I would go home and re-write them again, so that I could make them look nicer, more organized, and of course color-coded. I even had different colored notebook paper for each class. But it was that simple act of rewriting my notes that would help me remember what needed to be remembered.

Bringing that same concept back to planner I see now why all of those organizing apps and todo lists on my phones wouldn’t work. I wouldn’t remember what I needed to do unless I checked my phone a hundred times to remind myself. But by writing it down in the planner, yes I do still check it occasionally to make sure I didn’t miss anything, but simply writing them down already helps keep it in my mind, I can close my eyes and picture the todo section of my planner and what I wrote there. I mean this concept isn’t a foreign one. It goes back even to Biblical times if you truly stop to think about it. God told Moses to write down the commandments, he told kings to write down copies of that law so that they would remember. He told prophets to write down their prophecies so they could be remembered and preserved. Throughout time and history the act of writing things down has been used to remember and pass things down.

So, my advice today. If you find yourself struggling to keep track of your to-do lists, or figuring out what needs to happen throughout your days. Ditch the phone apps and try getting an actual planner to keep track. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or expensive. I’ve even seen small pocket planners at the dollar store. Give it a try, and I hope that it helps you, as much as it has helped me.