Christian Momma · Life

Birth and Loss and Memories

Mom and Anastasia, Thanksgiving 2018

As we have passed and celebrated my Emily’s 3rd birthday I can’t help but think about my own mom. You celebrate birthdays and you celebrate birth but there’s nothing like going through a loss to make you face your own mortality. I’ve been thinking about mom a lot these past few days, its been over a year and a half since she passed and I was thinking about her a lot yesterday and honestly miss having her to talk to. She was my biggest supporter and encourager and my role model. She taught me so much and I wasn’t ready to lose her, but I don’t think you can ever be ready to lose someone.

Experiencing loss as a Christian offers you solace, you know that they are in a better place and are much happier than we are back here, but as humans we are also trying to learn to cope with being left behind.

Mom and Emily, Thanksgiving 2020

Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy.

John 16:22

There’s a confliction with being happy that they are in a better place but at the same time sad about them being gone. For a long time after she passed the girls would ask on a nightly basis to see pictures and videos of her. Now, as time goes back the pictures get older and there’s no more new ones. No more new memories can be created with her, all we can do is think back fondly on the memories we have made and that pushes me to make more memories together with my girls while I am still here. To show them, to teach them, to take more pictures with them. I strive to become their role models the way that my mom was for me.

Me and my girls
My mother is so full of joy and life. I am her child. And that is better than being the child of anyone else in the world. 
- Maya Angelou
Life · Travel

Why I choose Airbnb as a Mom

Hotel Selfie in Asheville, NC – 2018

Before I had kids I was told all the time to travel I wouldn’t he able to do it as much once kids came along. But honestly, thats just not how I was raised. While I haven’t mustered up the courage to fly with the girls yet, we have still found ways to travel ever since our oldest was around 8 months old or so. They might be in a closer radius, we have not gone much further than 8hr road trip yet, but we still get around and Airbnb has made it that much easier for us to have a good time as a family.

I didn’t really use Airbnbs very much back then, and would get a hotel room but would sometimes feel stressed, especially at night with a baby. I mean let’s be honest not everyone is like us, a family with a baby that can/will cry at night. Some people are there to relax and that’s not easy when it’s 2 am and you have a screaming baby in the room next door(was usually the norm for us on the first night, thankfully has gotten better as girls got older). I usually would try to book a family-friendly venue since I’d hope that would involve more families with kids. I mean don’t get me wrong I’m not really someone who strives to make everyone happy but I try to give people the understanding I would like to receive myself. I recognize that what I’m ok with is not everyone’s cup of tea.

Ciui Family Reunion Cabin in Gatlinburg, TN 2021

So, after going on a couple group vacations with extended family where we used Airbnb or Vrbo we quickly realized the benefits.

Don’t get me wrong, there are pros and cons to everything. If you’re looking for a relaxing vacation where you don’t have to do any cooking or cleaning for yourself then this might not be your first choice. But if you’re like us and you enjoy your privacy and letting your kids be kids, well then…

Another time, another cabin in Gatlinburg, TN

And there are ways to make your trip easier too, plan easy quick meals or prep before your trip for less work or even get takeout if that’s your thing. Cleanup duty is done as a family and rather than figuring out a way to repack I’ll either put all the dirty clothes in one bag and the clean in the other or pack a trash bag to throw dirty clothes in, so much easier than trying to repack everything. It’s also important to be aware of what amenities are already provided, that way you avoid bringing things you don’t need.

Enjoying the view at Okie Dokies Smokehouse in Ashville, NC 2018 – The best jalapeno hushpuppies!

So, to summarize, it’s private, you have the amenities of home (sometimes even nicer than what you have at home), and you get to let your kids be kids and not worry about other people. I mean don’t get me wrong my girls don’t run around screaming at the tops of the lungs(often), but I still don’t want to have to constantly shush them for being a little too loud just because we are conscious of the fact that there are other people or families in rooms above, next door, and/or below. I love that they can run and jump when they have the opportunity to and at the end of the day when they just konk out from pure exhaustion I know that they had fun too.

Two very sleepy babies

Everyday we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.

Charles R. Swindoll
Life · Travel

Weekend Getaway

I say cheese and this is how she responds.

Everyone must have some place they immediately gravitate towards. For some it may be beaches, and don’t get me wrong I love beaches too and I love relaxing in the sun, but that darn sand getting everywhere makes it so hard to want to go often. For the Ciui(Pronounced Chewy) House our go to will probably always be mountains.

What is your go-to vacation spot?

We just love the mountains. We love camping (tents) and we love cabins. Granted, I probably enjoy cabins a lot more than I enjoy tents but you really can’t beat being surrounded by nature and the spectacular view.

Happy Birthday!

We had a weekend getaway this weekend. I wasn’t able to take more than one day off from work but thanks to Airbnb we were able to turn our 3-day weekend into a 3rd birthday getaway for Emily.

To be honest, the weekend totally snuck up on me and I was NOT prepared. The week has been a rush of laundry, packing, and I didn’t even have a chance to think about what we would do in our little cabin. Then found out that forecast showed thunderstorms so that also put a crimp in out plans.

Mouse Trap! Fun for all ages.

But with 2 small kiddos it’s not about trying to cram in all the things you can do in one short weekend, it’s more about doing things the whole family can enjoy. Like visiting nearby farm, or having fun with bubbles or just having a family game night and hanging out playing board games, Mouse Trap is the current favorite. Honestly, I’ve learned not the stress the big things with these kids. I might like to show them new experiences and go and see new things and we still do those things. But they are also perfectly happy relaxing and hanging out in the “cute tiny cabin” as they call it. Of course the birthday cake and presents helped.

Bubbles!

Overall, I think the weekend getaway was needed by all four of us. Having fun at the Darnell farm, spending time together while not being stuck in the house that we’re in every minute of every day was needed. Taking a break from the monotony of our usual routine has been both literally and figuratively a breath of fresh air.